Attachment Theory w/Aubrie Sellers: The Podcast

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie explores what happens when attraction turns into fantasy, and we fall in love with who someone could be instead of how they actually show up.
Through personal reflection and attachment theory, this episode unpacks romanticizing, dating potential, and the ways we rewrite red flags to protect hope and avoid disappointment. From confusing anxiety with chemistry to staying loyal to a future that never arrives, Delusional is about learning how to come back to reality with compassion, self-trust, and a clearer sense of what real love actually requires.
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Books mentioned on Attachment TheoryAs an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller — the gold-standard intro to attachment theory and the best place to start. https://amzn.to/4g18h4t
Relationship OCD by Sheva Rajaee — for the anxious, intrusive doubts that show up even when nothing's wrong. https://amzn.to/4g6xH0K
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron — navigating relationships when you feel everything more deeply. https://amzn.to/44unsvT
I Am by Anya Lincoln — identity work for dismantling the false beliefs you hold about yourself. https://amzn.to/4eHw1IF
Spiritual Divorce by Debbie Ford — reframing a breakup as something that came to teach you. https://amzn.to/4waOCUC

In this episode of Attachment Theory, Aubrie examines dating apps, noncommittal patterns, and the disappearing moral code of modern dating. From swipe culture and emotional unavailability to the rise of situationships and ghosting, she explores how today’s dating systems reward detachment and keep many people stuck in cycles of confusion and self-doubt.
Blending personal experience with attachment theory, this episode looks at why wounded attachment styles flock to apps, how chemistry can be confused with anxiety, and what it actually takes to date with intention in a landscape designed for distraction.
Got a question for Aubrie? Send it in on the Attachment Theory Loveline. 
New Album Attachment Theory Out Now
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Books mentioned on Attachment TheoryAs an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.
Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller — the gold-standard intro to attachment theory and the best place to start. https://amzn.to/4g18h4t
Relationship OCD by Sheva Rajaee — for the anxious, intrusive doubts that show up even when nothing's wrong. https://amzn.to/4g6xH0K
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love by Elaine Aron — navigating relationships when you feel everything more deeply. https://amzn.to/44unsvT
I Am by Anya Lincoln — identity work for dismantling the false beliefs you hold about yourself. https://amzn.to/4eHw1IF
Spiritual Divorce by Debbie Ford — reframing a breakup as something that came to teach you. https://amzn.to/4waOCUC

Attachment Theory is a podcast about modern relationships—why we stay, why we leave, and why so many of us keep repeating the same patterns.
Hosted by singer-songwriter Aubrie Sellers, each episode is inspired by a song from her upcoming album of the same name, using music as a starting point for honest conversations about attachment, dating culture, communication, and the emotional realities of modern love.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you were asking for too much, or just asking the wrong person, this podcast is for you.
New episodes out every other week starting January 14, 2026. 
New Album Attachment Theory Out Now
Aubrie Sellers Tour Dates
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